TRUE LOVE is a one time opportunity, and when it comes to a man, no matter how many women he meets, there will always be the one particular woman he loves or will ever love the most. It can be this serious when the woman he loves most hurts him,……………the broken hearted man ends up irrationally taking advantage of women, only using them for sex…..with a conclusion, “all women are the same.”
However, where there is true love, there must be hurting, and forgiveness bridges the loving and hurting. Where forgiveness fails, its obvious failure for the relationship.
Here’s a short story of a friend of mine who lost the love of his life in a very unclear manner (requested to remain anonymous)………
He thought there was power in their love, intertwined with forgiveness no matter how many mistakes they made to each other.
Saturday 15th April, 2017 was when he got to know that his love’s heart had turned against him, it was simply his silent walking away that ended what they had after four years of an admirable romantic relationship.
Tears over his chicks, not because of a negative reply, but because of the intolerable unprepared for silence she held at a far place he had no clue about. He only wished to feel her presence, but the silence said it all.
Many were excited about the Easter Holiday, but his was filled with pain because his story had a negative turn. He only wished she stayed a little longer, or even said something at a distance, it would have captured some relief. She chose to leave without saying goodbye and kept a distant shut.
The grief that he held was one excruciating experience he ever had. How sorry he felt! Through answered phone calls and text messages, he tried opening his heart wide to her, regretting his previous actions, “what a playful me!”, he thought, unfortunately, it only triggered more pain.
He thought she loved him so much, but all hope was gone.
Currently, my broken friend believes he can never love again, because his love left to where who knows! After that experience, he has never considered letting out a piece of him to any other woman. Ever since then, to him, women are just for fun and bearing children to fulfill the creation task. No love.
This is where I emphasize that forgiveness in relationships has to be strong. As humans, we at times hurt each other in a joking way, it could then turn out to be a big deal for one of the parties, but when love and forgiveness prevail, happiness comes home.
Love carries a strong power that love’s presence withholds. Real love comes with infinite forgiveness.